BDSM Guide

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Spreader bar

A spreader bar is a type of BDSM restraint that is designed to keep the legs of the submissive partner spread apart. It typically consists of a metal or wooden bar with two ankle cuffs or loops attached at each end, which are used to secure the submissive partner's ankles.

The spreader bar works by preventing the submissive partner from closing their legs, which can create a feeling of vulnerability and helplessness. It can be used in a variety of BDSM scenarios, such as bondage, obedience training, and erotic roleplay, and can be particularly effective for interrogation play or impact play.

One of the primary benefits of using a spreader bar is that it allows for easy access to the submissive partner's genital area, making it a popular tool for sexual play. The spreader bar can be used to keep the submissive partner's legs apart, allowing for easier access to their genitals and anus for oral contact, manual stimulation, or vaginal and/ or anal penetration. It can also be used to keep the submissive partner in a certain position for impact play, such as spanking or flogging.

Some spreader bars are adjustable, allowing the dominant partner to change the length of the bar as needed. Others may feature additional attachments, such as D-rings or hooks, that can be used to add further restraints, such as chains or ropes.

The spreader bars can also be used in combination with other restraints, such as leather cuffs, ropes, or blindfolds, to create a more intense and immersive BDSM experience. Some dominant partners may use spreader bars as a form of punishment or discipline for their submissive, keeping them immobilized, helpless, and exposed while they administer spanking or other forms of corporal punishment.

Apart from being a restraint for the ankles, spreader bars can serve as a rigid connection between the wrists or between the wrists and the neck, or even between the ankles and the neck, limiting the movements of the arms or the ability of the submissive to bend their limbs or protect their body by cowering.

Some spreader bars may be designed not only for limb separation but also for suspension (see Suspension bar).

When using a spreader bar, it is important to take precautions to ensure the submissive partner's safety and comfort.

Do not use too long bars. In this case, more is not always better. Adjust the length to your partner's physical capabilities, bearing in mind that a length of 50 to 55 cm is in most cases quite sufficient to force them to spread their legs wide.

Remember that when standing with legs apart the body is in unstable equilibrium and can easily lurch forward or fall backward, especially if the arms are also immobilized and there is no other support.

Standing with your legs apart puts strain on your thigh and pelvic muscles, which can be very tiring and painful. Use it as a punishment, but carefully and wisely. Do not leave your partner unattended and use a safe word or another signal that can be used to stop the scene if necessary.

Overall, spreader bars can be a highly effective form of bondage whether used as a piece of dungeon equipment or in a domestic setting. With proper communication, safety measures, and a little imagination, they can be exciting and functional BDSM restraints for both partners.